Welllllp, I had the pleasure of meeting with Inez Lewis again. My goodness, she is an amazing woman in so many ways. What a true artist, beautiful soul…I could go on and on gushing. I am thankful to have met her.
Blond again!!
Nov 18
I am happy to say that I am now officially deemed a blond again! Woohooo! The darker hair was fun and a nice change for a while. Interestingly, my brunette friends like my hair darker and my friends with lighter hair (and 90% of the men I asked) prefer me as a blond. Hmmmm..?
New pics of me and my honey blond hue will be posted soon. As for tonight? I’ve been donning a pony tail all day and while it’s cute, it’s not camera-ready. 
In my attempts to make numerous changes in my life, I decided to have my stylist make my hair a smidge darker for the fall season.
:-/
While the color is certainly lovely, I do miss having some bright, light hues in my hair. As she is a responsible and conservative stylist, she demands I wait a week or two before she begins adding higlights and bleaching my hair again.
I wanted to let you know that if you will be seeing me before the end of October, please expect a darker hue of hair. I’m still the same sweet, porcelain faced empath as before, so have no fear!
xoxoxo
More New Pictures
Aug 9
Woohoooo! I do so love working with photographer Inez Lewis. She’s amazing and a very sweet, professional woman…so easy to work with!
Care to indulge in my Summertime Takeoff? Click here for details!
First, please visit www.DayofSilence.org to learn more.
My heart breaks with the stories of bullying in schools, whether directed toward LGBTQ students or those who simply “don’t fit in” for whatever reasons.
I think back to my days in school and the students who were picked on. Surprisingly, those who came out in high school as LGBT (the Q wasn’t included back then) were NOT picked on…perhaps because they were considered “interesting” or “fascinating.” My school was very large–my graduating class had over 800 students–so perhaps we had such a randomly diverse group of students anyway that those who were out as LGBT(Q) simply didn’t phase anyone. Who knows?
But it has astounded me to see how students, from grammar school to college, are bullied these days. Perhaps the Internet makes bullying that much easier for the bullies to hide behind anonymously, at least temporarily until a tragedy occurs, which seems far too common these days.
There are many ways we can help support April 15th, the National Day of Silence to bring attention to anti-LGBTQ name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools. I, for one, will remain silent during happy hour and will wear something red (the official color of the Day of Silence) and am printing out my own postcard-sized fliers to hand out to those at my neighborhood happy hour spot. I will update this blog on the reactions I receive…sometimes one-too-many cocktails makes people extra judgmental. But staying painfully silent will be NOTHING compared to the pain that those who are bullied go through.
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From dayofsilence.org:
On the National Day of Silence hundreds of thousands of students nationwide take a vow of silence to bring attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in their schools.
Know your rights! Read Read The Freedom to Speak (Or Not) by Lambda Legal to learn about your legal rights to participate in the Day of Silence.
Report It! Are you experiencing resistance to your Day of Silence organizing or activities from your school administrators or faculty? If you are a student in a U.S. K-12 school and feel like your rights are not being respected, please click here to let us know!
Sex Worker Groups Respond to Long Island Murders
April 8th, 2011 — press-releases
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Friday, April 8, 2011
Contact: Dylan Wolf, SWANK, 347-748-9163, swank@riseup.net
Sarah Jenny Bleviss, swop.nyc@gmail.com
New York – Sex Workers Action New York (SWANK) and Sex Workers Outreach Project NYC (SWOP-NYC) are dismayed that four more bodies were discovered on Long Island earlier this week. Police believe that a serial killer is responsible for murdering at least eight people found on a remote Suffolk County beach since December. Reports indicate the murder victims were in the sex trade. As sex workers and allies, SWANK and SWOP-NYC mourn the lives of these individuals and extend our sympathies to their families and communities.
“Sex workers are targeted for violence because of the stigma against what we do,” Dylan Wolf, a SWANK member said, “People think they can do whatever they want to us and they won’t get caught. And because of bad laws, social isolation and discrimination, they get away with it all the time. But like those murdered, we’re not disposable, bad people – we have lives that matter and people that love us. No matter who we are or what we do to make ends meet, we don’t deserve to die – we deserve good lives.”
A recent New York Times article suggested that dozens, if not hundreds, of people in the sex industry have been murdered in New York State since 1990. “Stories like what’s happened on Long Island make us fear for our safety,” said SWANK member Michael Bottoms, “As sex workers, we already know that stigma puts us at risk for being targeted, and so we take as many precautions as we can. But if we do experience violence, most of us can’t go to the cops, because we could get arrested, they might not take us seriously, or they could have been the ones who were violent to us in the first place.”
“When we ignore violence against sex workers, we support a culture where a serial killer can murder eight, twelve, or even dozens of sex workers without the media, the police or the general public being outraged or even thinking twice,” said Maryse Mitchell-Brody, a SWOP-NYC organizer, “We won’t end this violence by keeping the sex trade illegal, because it isn’t going anywhere – this just drives people further underground and makes them more vulnerable to violence. Murders like these show that we must use new strategies to create safety and dignity that don’t reinforce stigma or discrimination.”
To learn more about what you can do to support the rights of current and former sex workers and those with experience in the sex trade to safety and well-being, visit www.swop-nyc.org.
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Soooooo here goes.
Those of you who have met me know I’m an open book. While I know how to conduct myself in a professional manner when the occasion calls for formal behavior, I am at most times the woman who is completely open, friendly and gracious to all people. Yes, I respect those who do not see eye-to-eye with me. I will even give them hugs! ((()))
Years ago, I was involved in this demimonde under a different name. I was younger, I was insecure (aren’t we all? But especially in our twenties!), I had a solid reputation as an overnight/travel companion. I also had a body that was considered “fit and sexy” by most, but was the result of my eating disorders.
During my time in the demimonde as the “other” name, I experienced a devastating, life-changing event that took its toll on me… I experienced major depression, my eating disorders went in the opposite direction, I went out “partying” every night just to numb myself from my emotions and found just getting out of bed to be difficult.
Did I look like sh?t? Absolutely! I look at pictures from those days and I looked sickly, puffy, worn out and OLD.
Did I gain weight? Yes! And I was too depressed to go out and buy a new wardrobe, resulting in me donning clothes that were a size too small and I looked like…well…just bad.
I took a temporary retirement from this little world until I felt healthier and went through a healing process. I recreated myself as “Lynette Marie” and have had a wonderful time doing so.
Recently, however, the staff at a certain review site discovered that I used to go by another name before becoming “Lynette.” They banned me from their site for a short while, but once I explained my history, I was reinstated as a member.
OUCH!!!!!!!
In reading the old reviews about me before I became Lynette, my heart broke and I felt nauseous. It was apparent how I started out as a very youthful, apparently “fit” young lady (in spite of those eating disorders) and ended up as a tired, puffy, worn out woman.
Once again, OUCH!!!!
But the more I look back at those old reviews, the less painful the “OUCH!” is.
I look back at those days and I am thankful for how far I’ve come…
- I overcame depression
- I overcame my eating disorders
- I learned to accept myself as a flawed human being because WE ARE ALL FLAWED
- I returned to the world of fitness, running four-five half marathons a year along with numerous 10Ks
- I look younger, leaner, stronger and more vibrant (!!)
- Most importantly, I am now comfortable in my skin…in being REAL…and surrounding myself with other open-minded, kind hearted people
So it this too much to share as an escort? Does anyone really care?
My belief is no, this is not too much to share. I am a real human being with real hurts, heartbreaks and hangups. Just like you.
And YES, people care…at least people like you who take the time to read my blog.
I welcome your comments and if you wish to vent your own hurts, please do share.
I thank The Erotic Review for allowing me to post on their site again (mainly sex workers rights issues) and to be a listed and ranked escort. If you are not a member, I recommend checking them out and all that they have to offer to both companions and clients.
Feeling empowered by how far I’ve come,
Lynette Marie
–formerly known as Selena Scott
Every once in a while, I will receive an email from a patron that goes something like this:
Hi Lynette,
this is John Q. Patron. I hope life has been treating you well.
I will be traveling for business in a few weeks and I’m wondering if I may provide your name as a reference when I contact ladies for appointments. Is that okay?
My best,
John Q.
My response is always pretty much the same:
Of course! Any time!
I am very supportive of both ladies and gentlemen who are involved in this little world of ours. While some people are convinced that escorts are always secretly in competition with each other, let me break this myth right now. The providers I surround myself with keep in touch with each other via email, phone calls, Skype, texts, Twitter, Facebook etc… whether we are 5 or 5,000 miles away from each other. If one of us is in a jam, is sick, just needs to talk, we take comfort in knowing we can reach out to each other for advice or a shoulder to cry on.
If you are also a reference friendly provider, please go here to Missy Mariposa’s site to grab her badge and let the world know you want to keep other providers safe.
When I first entered this industry, I had never met an escort before. Okay–I take that back. I had met an escort in college when I first began working for an agency. But at that time, the agency wasn’t necessarily an “escort” agency–we were an outcall massage service. Eghem.
After graduating and moving to another (and bigger) city, I discovered escort advertising malls online and excitedly had a friend take some pictures of me and placed my ad. The ad grew into a website and I soon earned a reputation as being a legitimate, respected and quality provider.
However, for years the most correspondence I had with other companions was when we participated in discussions on bulletin boards, invited one another to engage in a banner exchange or requested patron references.
It wasn’t until about a year ago that I began meeting other ladies face to face, first at ladies-only gatherings, then reaching out in friendship one-on-one with women I’d communicated with on the boards, through Twitter and by participating in sex workers’ media training workshops and other sex worker related conferences.
Now let me tell you something: when I am meeting a gentleman for the first time, I am never nervous. Excited? Absolutely! In anticipation? Absolutely. But when I was meeting other sex workers for the first time, I was practically shaking with nervousness! “What are these women all about? Where did they come from? Are they super models? Do they have PhDs? Do they have issues with men? Will they spread gossip about me?” These are the thoughts that ran through my mind as I was on my way to meet a lady or a room full of them. Especially when I was going to meet a former madam and a woman who worked in a dungeon! I expected some very harsh personalities and with me being a laid back, “cupcake” type (so I’ve been told) I was intimidated to enter the room…
To my surprise (and admittedly, my relief) most all the ladies I’ve met in this industry have been absolutely charming, friendly, interesting and sincere. Have I met any super model types? Yes, I’ve met some very attractive ladies. Ladies with advanced degrees? Yes, myself included. Have any had issues with men? Unfortunately, I have met a handful who seemed to talk down about their clients (I even heard the term “turning tricks.” It honestly turned my stomach to hear that in real life) but the majority of women I’ve met entered this industry because they enjoy the company of men and they look forward to spending time with their patrons. Have any of them spread gossip about me? Who knows. Perhaps. While I avoid participating in gossip, I understand it is considered “fun” by many. Hopefully, I’m gossiped about in a good way, like, “Did you hear Lynette’s latest radio interview?” Something like that. =)
And were the madam or dungeon workers harsh or dressed in black goth-style clothing? Not at all. They were both incredibly down to earth. In fact, the madam was truly interested in my pursuits and played a huge role in my decision to move forward with a project that I now have in the works.
I have friends in many areas of my life: my fitness world, my spiritual world, alumni and volunteer groups. But with my fellow sex workers, I have nothing to hide. I have found a group of supportive ladies and gentlemen who I can call while crying or venting some concern and they have always lent a supportive and nonjudgmental ear.
So if you are an escort or other type of sex worker who is reading this and have been feeling isolated amongst your “civvie” friends who don’t know about your role in the demimonde, and have been afraid to reach out to other ladies (and gentlemen!) in this little world of ours, I encourage you to take that first step. Peruse some discussion boards and websites, find someone who you feel you could relate to and drop her or him a note to just say hello. Chances are, you’ll be glad you did!
